“How?” Is The Best Question You Can Ask

Chronic panic attacks and the resulting constant anxiety are so debilitating and mysterious that many sufferers are too overwhelmed to figure out what to do about the problem. I lived with agoraphobia for years before I knew anything about my cursed condition. I asked my self “Why” of course many times, but it took a long time for me to ask, “How?”  “How am I going to stop this madness?”

Once I started that pursuit (in the ’60’s) I discovered there weren’t any apparent answers to overcoming panic attacks. I saw a lot of doctors and shrinks of various kinds for decades, and not once did any of the lot present me with some practical answers to the question “How am I going to stop having panic attacks?” The word “how” committed me to an unending search for the answers. Finally, I put together everything that had worked for me in one way or another, and certainly from self knowledge gained in therapy, and overcame my panic disorder and agoraphobia – more than 20 years ago.

Asking yourself or anyone how to do something means you are ready to do practical work on your problem with the intent of solving the problem. I learned that I had to heal the whole of me in order to get to the point of recovering, The recovery program I developed reflects that, with daily activities involving mind, body and spirit work.

All of the daily activities and studies in the program are revealing how to do what you need as part of overcoming your fears. Once you start working aggressively and regularly on solving your problem you will get up every day thinking of how.  “How can I learn and how can I do?” are questions that will eventually lead you to freedom. Yes, I said freedom.

I’m linking you to an article on change, and how some people have trouble making necessary changes. I know you desperately want to change your circumstances. Reading this should give you insight to changing by using the magic word: “How”?



Guest Blog – Kitty’s Progress

(Kitty has suffered from agoraphobia for years and writes of her progress from time to time as a guest blogger)

Daily Therapeutic Activities Are Helpful

When you have panic disorder and agoraphobia at the level that I’ve had it the past four years, you can seek Social Security disability income until you recover. It’s a very long road to get disability when you’re not dying. I applied three years ago and my hearing for the final decision is not until August. You can’t work while you’re waiting for disability because your disability keeps you from working. Even applying for a job disqualifies you for disability income. Being unable to work can diminish your self worth. Society tries to define people by what they do for a living. Well that’s bull. You have an abundance of worthiness.

It helps to feel like you’re impacting the world if you pick up a hobby where you work with your hands. I write and draw. I mostly write fanfiction, but that’s still writing. I post it online and I’ve even gained a small fan base. It puts a pep in my step for the whole day when I get a comment on one of my fanfictions saying that they loved it.

For drawing, I have a sketchbook and a pencil and that’s all I really need. Sometimes I use pose references from stock photos. I used to have a scanner and I would post the work online, but I don’t have a scanner anymore. Other people don’t have to look at something I drew to validate it. I look at it and I think “I made that, and I’m proud of it.”

You may say “But, Kitty, I don’t have any drawing or writing talent.” First of all, just try it and double check on that by showing it to people you know love you and will tell you the truth kindly. We’re all our own worst critics and maybe you just need practice. But even if you’re not good at those, you’re good at something, you just have to find it. Maybe knitting, maybe photography, maybe pottery, or sports.

Another way to feel like you’ve accomplished something is video games. Battle a dragon, save the kingdom, save the galaxy. It may be an artificial rush of accomplishment, but it’s a rush all the same.